The other day I was talking to a work colleague, who pointed out that in fairy-tales women are portrayed as damsels in distress always needing a male. So it made me think do men really think women need someone to save them – to be their knight in shining armour – their fairy-tale?
From an early age we are taught from fairy tales that females require a man to be the saviour, the hope, the love, the romancer and the protector. As children we don’t really understand and think that this is how it should be. As we grow we see men in society as being just that, we may see our fathers being the worker and making the money for the house, we may see men as always driving for family outings, and of course in movies we see men as taking control of situations. Except Lara Croft.
So in retrospect, do men think that is what we need? Do they think that we think that?
Not anymore I hope. There are of course, the ideal relationships, where the man is the fairy-tale. I myself love that feeling. However not to the point where you are treated like a useless idiot, incapable of even pushing a shopping trolley around! – (in my partners defence it is because he is just a gentleman, he does not consider me useless.)
So where are the fairy-tales where women save the men? Where are the men that are locked away in the woods looking after 7 working women? There are snippets here and there, like the Little Mermaid who has determination to save her daughter, or Beauty who rushes to the Beasts aid. There are others of course, but it is always a fairy-tale ending where the male is the ultimate saviour (Mulan is the ONLY exception!). Just look at how the male has his arms around the female, or he is shown bigger, taller, more ideal.
Why are women portrayed so useless and pitiful?
So you prick your finger on a spinning wheel. There’s blood. Do you faint like a princess or do you stick your finger in your mouth and move on?
I’m moving on. I’m off to cut my own way through the brambled hedge-fence from my side. I will watch the knight fight the dragon from another mountain. I don’t have time to wait and ponder a 100 year sleep. I want to live now, and I will do it without being cast as a needy unintelligent incapable woman.